Forum for Science, Industry and Business

Sponsored by:     3M 
Search our Site:

 

Rules of the game­ the unwritten rules of the bar pick-up

19.05.2008
How is a pick-up done in a bar? What strategies for rejection and sexual come-ons do men and women use? In his dissertation Hans Andersson of Umeå University in Sweden provides insight into the unwritten rules of flirting and the pick-up.

Flirting and picking up dates at bars is a perennially topical subject. For men, the subject of picking up women is a kind of lowest common denominator. In shared trust, men are quick to exchange experiences, theories, and anecdotes, while women seldom speak so freely about their exploits. The bar environment­night clubs and pubs­is a setting where sexual contacts are often established between men and women. Yet thorough observational studies of these environments and phenomena are rare.

Hans Andersson's doctoral thesis Spelets regler (Rules of the game) provides insight into the thorny terrain of expectations on men and women as they are cultivated in the interplay between the sexes at bars. He describes "mating rituals" and strategies for sexual come-ons and rejections.

The gender ideals and sexual norms of our culture are reflected at bars. Despite all the talk about sexual equality over the last few decades and the wide-spread notion that women "take their share" on the same terms as men, reality is different. Women's strategies in relation to men are grounded in a waiting and choosing approach, and the ability to choose with care and to reject unsuitable men is viewed as a measure of self-control and self-respect.

The sexual morality in force is that women are expected to be "well-balanced" in their sexuality. Women do not pick up men, they flirt. Flirting is an easy-going and playful act that is associated with "good" sexuality­romance, love, and twosomes. Picking someone up, on the other hand, is associated with bodily lust. Picking up men is therefore spoken of in terms of being something dirty. The pick-up is a morally low, masculine act.

Men speak of picking up women in terms of "conquest." Picking up women is a feat or an achievement. For men, picking up women is based on the notion that women are hard to catch; it's up to the men to pick them up in the proper way and to please the woman. In this way, the pick-up is a challenge, but it can also be a source of powerlessness and lack of control, since it is presumed to take place on the woman's terms. Some men relish the "charm of the chase," while other more reticent men feel uncertain and find themselves at a loss in their encounters with women.

The book Spelets regler is based on in-depth interviews and field studies at night clubs and pubs. The study provides new perspectives on men and manliness in the interface between micro-sociology and gender and men's research.

On Friday, May 9, Hans Andersson, Department of Sociology, Umeå University, publicly defended his dissertation titled Spelets regler­raggning och flirt på krogen (Rules of the game­the pick-up and flirtation at bars). The external examiner was Professor Ulf Mellström, Luleå University of Technology.

Contact Hans Andersson at:
e-mail: hansasson@hotmail.com
cell phone: +46 (0)73-800 90 18
Hans Andersson is easiest to reach in the evening (6:00-10:00 p.m.) and on weekends. Other times text messaging is recommended.

Camilla Nilsson | idw
Further information:
http://www.borea.nu/

More articles from Social Sciences:

nachricht New measure for the wellbeing of populations could replace Human Development Index
07.11.2018 | International Institute for Applied Systems Analysis (IIASA)

nachricht Because not only arguments count
30.10.2018 | Max-Planck-Institut für Mathematik in den Naturwissenschaften (MPIMIS)

All articles from Social Sciences >>>

The most recent press releases about innovation >>>

Die letzten 5 Focus-News des innovations-reports im Überblick:

Im Focus: UNH scientists help provide first-ever views of elusive energy explosion

Researchers at the University of New Hampshire have captured a difficult-to-view singular event involving "magnetic reconnection"--the process by which sparse particles and energy around Earth collide producing a quick but mighty explosion--in the Earth's magnetotail, the magnetic environment that trails behind the planet.

Magnetic reconnection has remained a bit of a mystery to scientists. They know it exists and have documented the effects that the energy explosions can...

Im Focus: A Chip with Blood Vessels

Biochips have been developed at TU Wien (Vienna), on which tissue can be produced and examined. This allows supplying the tissue with different substances in a very controlled way.

Cultivating human cells in the Petri dish is not a big challenge today. Producing artificial tissue, however, permeated by fine blood vessels, is a much more...

Im Focus: A Leap Into Quantum Technology

Faster and secure data communication: This is the goal of a new joint project involving physicists from the University of Würzburg. The German Federal Ministry of Education and Research funds the project with 14.8 million euro.

In our digital world data security and secure communication are becoming more and more important. Quantum communication is a promising approach to achieve...

Im Focus: Research icebreaker Polarstern begins the Antarctic season

What does it look like below the ice shelf of the calved massive iceberg A68?

On Saturday, 10 November 2018, the research icebreaker Polarstern will leave its homeport of Bremerhaven, bound for Cape Town, South Africa.

Im Focus: Penn engineers develop ultrathin, ultralight 'nanocardboard'

When choosing materials to make something, trade-offs need to be made between a host of properties, such as thickness, stiffness and weight. Depending on the application in question, finding just the right balance is the difference between success and failure

Now, a team of Penn Engineers has demonstrated a new material they call "nanocardboard," an ultrathin equivalent of corrugated paper cardboard. A square...

All Focus news of the innovation-report >>>

Anzeige

Anzeige

VideoLinks
Industry & Economy
Event News

“3rd Conference on Laser Polishing – LaP 2018” Attracts International Experts and Users

09.11.2018 | Event News

On the brain’s ability to find the right direction

06.11.2018 | Event News

European Space Talks: Weltraumschrott – eine Gefahr für die Gesellschaft?

23.10.2018 | Event News

 
Latest News

UNH scientists help provide first-ever views of elusive energy explosion

16.11.2018 | Physics and Astronomy

How the gut ‘talks’ to brown fat

16.11.2018 | Life Sciences

Massive impact crater from a kilometer-wide iron meteorite discovered in Greenland

15.11.2018 | Earth Sciences

VideoLinks
Science & Research
Overview of more VideoLinks >>>